Do I need a coach? … Yes, we all do

The answer to “Do I need a coach?” is unequivocally “Yes, we all need a coach” Years of coaching and especially coaching with painting from the subconscious mind, made me see what most people are struggling with. Surprisingly or maybe not, we are all looking for the same thing but in different ways. We all want love, respect, recognized for who we are. How we are going about it, is where it becomes complicated, but still we all seem to think that control is an absolute must. But together with a number of beliefs we have formed over the years, the control we think will hold us together in actuality keeps us from getting in touch with our true selves. What I see in my clients is best described with the following metaphor: Imagine yourself holding on to a long metal pole with a platform on top with a pile of your beliefs, your life. If you let go of your grip the pole won’t hold up and with that your life. You fall apart! completely and utterly apart … with a fear so great you are holding on for dear life, but from time to time you waver and the poles sways from left to right … Oh NO! … so you fasten your grip … but over the years you are getting so tired, your hands sweaty and slippery and … yes, you let go, you slide down, the poles crashes and with that your whole life! So now what? Well while you are hunkering down, your life in thousand pieces, something happens. Some inner strength that has always been there unseen, not nurtured, grows inside. You realize that in order to go on you have to live YOUR life, from WITHIN and slowly … slowly … you gain inner strength, your spine grows stronger and straightens and before you know it you are walking again. Wouldn’t it be much easier to live with this inner strength instead of holding on to something from outside? Inner strength is always with you. You don’t get tired of it. You don’t have to hold on to it. It holds on to you. And that is where a life coach comes in. A coach can...

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Why I am happily paying my life coach the big bucks

Huffingtonpost.com   The most powerful ally I’ve ever had is a man who doesn’t believe half of what comes out of my mouth. What makes him such a powerful ally is that even when I think all the odds are stacked against me, he knows the only things in my way are my BS limiting beliefs, and my fear of failing. All of my excuses and sob stories are received with a knowing smile and an invitation to see my challenges from another perspective. Most people misunderstand life coaches. There are probably a few different reasons for this, the first likely being that when we think of the word “coach”, we think of the guy who’s yelling at us to do 20 pushups between laps around the field. The second reason we misunderstand them is that there are plenty of people calling themselves life coaches who aren’t actually coaches. These people have answers for our problems. They’re experts and they can be very helpful in the areas of business … (read...

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Painting & Horses, a Workshop for Coaches

  Beth Herman and I facilitated a fantastic 3-hr workshop for the International Coach Federation (ICF) to show how coaching with other modalities works. Please find below the article Joy Goldman, one of the participants wrote about it.  Painting and Horses – a Workshop for coaches By Joy Goldman, PCC  Secretary, ICF MD Chapter September 29th was an overcast and dreary day, not unlike many of the days the latter part of September and early October.  I was one of sixteen lucky people who got to participate in Elizabeth Herman’s and Elisabeth Vismans’ ICF-Maryland’s workshop on painting and horses, and their use in coaching. This three-hour workshop was held on the beautiful Four-Quarters Farm in Hampstead, MD.   After introductions, Elisabeth introduced us to our first hour of painting.  Her coaching to us was to suspend the judging mind and to be present to the colors that were speaking to us, and the strokes that emerged from us as we faced our blank canvas.  If you’ve ever tried to do that, you might imagine the potential struggle to get out of your head and all of your beliefs around: “I’m not an artist;” “I don’t know how to paint.”  “I can’t draw anything!” In less than an hour, Elisabeth masterfully coached us to see the metaphors of our life in our painting.  How willing were we to experiment with bold strokes?  How were we feeling and how successful were we at getting out of judging mode?  What might happen if we were to let go?  As one who has never painted, I allowed myself to close my eyes and feel what wanted to move within me.  I experimented with thick brushes and narrow brushes; I allowed paint to drip on the canvas, in addition to strokes of paint.  I even got into throwing paint on the canvas (felt somewhat rebellious and angry).  As with all of us, the painting became the metaphor of our life and provided insights in a much more rapid fashion than any dialogue could unearth. Next came our two equine teachers: Theo and Brodie.  Beth provided us with safety information about how to approach the horse and she made quick parallels between horses and people:  Establish the relationship first.  Someone...

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Day 10 – When in R-mode ….

When in R-mode beautiful things happen.

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Day 9

Savoring vs Stuffing your Face

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Day 8 of my 30 day video challenge

Sketching and drawing.              

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